Understand your own posture
We sometimes tend to attribute to others the responsibility for
our own difficulties in leading them: "they're stubborn, they're not in
good faith..." But it is also in response to our own
way of being with them that they follow us... or not. So to
identify our own way of being "too much" or "not enough", of doing or
not doing, will help us to discern what may first have to
change in us.
Position yourself clearly
Authority implies that one's opinions and demands have a value
and are respected. It is therefore essential to challenge yourself: What
is my opinion on...? Is it clearly understood by my
entourage? How do they know precisely what I expect? By
positioning yourself, you help others to position themselves more easily
in turn: "yes," "no," "I'll do it," "I won't" ...
Reason according to "common interests"
Establishing your authority does not always mean imposing it. On
the contrary, one must constantly juggle the negotiable and the
non-negotiable. For what is negotiable, there is the need to
take into account the other's constraints and expectations... on
the condition that yours and those of your team are likewise respected.
What is expressed here is fairness, a key ingredient
in legitimate authority.